“He took my…” “He hit me…” “She pulled my…” “Get off the couch!” “Stop with the ball!” “I’m bored…” “Can I invite a friend?” “Can we order pizza?” “I’m hungry.” “I spilled my juice.” “Pick up all these toys!” “Stop bothering him.” And on and on… Sound familiar? We have a different solution for you… a hug!
A hug has healing, calming powers. During a hug, “happiness hormones” like dopamine and oxytocin are released, improving our mood and bringing serenity. Hugging is evolutionary, like a mother embracing her baby – that warm touch is designed to envelop, protect, and give a sense of security.
So even though summer vacation is in full swing, and sometimes things can get a bit crazy, try to pause, take a deep breath, look your child in the eyes with love, and give them a long hug (: It might help them calm down and become more relaxed and fun, much more than anger or scolding would.
In general, it’s good to hug and be hugged because a hug is a source of warmth, love, empathy, and a feeling of peace. It’s a message that “I’m here for you,” even in the midst of a storm. Plus, it’s free! 
And if you have kids who don’t like hugs or touch? Don’t give up on them. You can hug them without physical contact by telling them you love them and you’re there for them. Keep offering hugs from time to time—they might change their minds. 
And don’t forget about yourselves! Ask for a hug when you need one to calm down too. 
